Your Ultimate Online Guide to Keeping Sane For Parents
How's parenting going for you and your family?
I'm guessing that if your anything like me, your to do list is as a Mum, is fricking enormous, right?
Your mind is busy. Even when you're actually trying to take a rest, it's a battle with the part of you that just wants to get all those jobs done and the other very important part of you, who is SOOOOOOO TIRED.
And there's that old nag, guilt.
It rarely gets in the back seat does it?
What would you do more of if that mental chatter wasn't there?
Maybe you could be ok with lowering your expectations. Maybe you could prioritise your need to rest or do whatever it is, that helps you chill or just plain have fun.
And just how do you cope with the screaming or the sensory overload, the constant chatter, the being pulled in 50 different directions, while trying to do just one thing.
Is that when angry Mum pops out of nowhere, like a text from a shitty ex boyfriend?
Or is that at bedtime or both?!
And let me ask you, when the last time you had fun with your partner was? (2011 Falls Festival for my husband and I FYI, jokes - we are sooo much better at making time for eacho other, although it definitely doesn't look like 2011 Falls :D)
Mix all of the above thoroughly with a dose of home schooling, limited family or friend support, a loss of your identity and limited access to your normal coping resources,
in the midst of a global pandemic and possibly a second wave
One overwhelmed parent
I'd really love to help you with all that.
I'm Sarah, a clinical psychologist, mother of 2 very determined girls, aged, 6 and 4, owner of a private practice Eastern Shore Psychology in Hobart and author of Keep Sane and Parent On (and an occasional yeller).
I can help you learn to put you at the top of your list with your kids.
Looking after you too, is looking after your kids.
Healthy, happy kids, need a healthy, mostly happy parent FIRST.
Via countless therapy sessions with numerous Mums, a couple of rounds of my face to face Keep Sane and Parent On classes in 2018 and 2019, research, discussions with friends and my own experience with my girls, I have developed a very personalised, laid back, informative, but not at all judgy, online program, which addresses all the above.
I find the problem with most parenting strategies, blogs, programs, is that
I end up feeling like a failure.
And I have heard this a lot from many Mums.
They try the gentle approach, they try the time out approach, they try the 1,2,3 approach, they try bloody everything.
As they are such amazing Mums.
They are so dedicated.
So focussed on the needs of their kids.
Not wanting to f&*k them up.
Not wanting the same experience they had when they were a kid.
Every good intention in the world.
But wringing their hands because "nothing works."
The seven keys I have identified to keeping your sanity as a parent, and helping the family unit, are the following:
Learning to manage the overwhelm of all the balls that you juggle as a parent - the house, the kids, work, school, childcare, friends, family, your identity, your relationship
How to prioritise your mental health, with ooooooodles of self care and learning how to drop guilt for good (mostly)
Understanding your kids, the neuroscience behind their emotions and behaviours (and yours). Then how you can foster deep connections with them to help foster your relationship for the long term and work with challenges together
Learning the why behind your temper and skills to tame it, so you reduce the yelling at your kids and learning why you must learn to be gentle with yourself, when you stuff up.
Rekindling and nurturing your identity outside of being a parent. Being a good enough parent, involves finding parts of the old you that existed before you were a parent or finding a new part!
Learning how to trust your instinct, stop overthinking everything and focussing on what you think, not what everyone else or social media says
Parenting with your partner. Accepting, resolving conflict and riding the inevitable storms and injecting fun back into your relationship.
When you sign up, starting from Mon 4th Oct, over the following six weeks, you'll receive:
x6 1 hour videos on
Self care and Mum guilt
Managing your anger/irritability,
Maintaining/managing/coping with your intimate partnership
Challenging behaviours/connection with your kids/trusting your instinct
Finding your identity/purpose outside of parenting
6 Worksheets to keep you accountable and to help you in the best way possible
Parenting Affirmations (affirmations help you to transform how you think and behave)
Mindfulness of Breath (my way, not anybody else's ;))
Drop guilt and keep your cool hypnosis
PLUS there will be a $10 donation made to PANDA (Perinatal Anxiety and Depression Australia) for each purchase
PLUS PLUS for those who sign up by Monday 28th September, Ill send you a free Ebook of my first title Keep Sane and Parent On (Also available here right now)
All for $149 or x 6 weekly payments of $26
To put it in perspective an hour psychology session is $195.
So, plus the mp3s and book, it's worth
1 hour sessions with me: 6 x $195
Mp3s: 3 x $16.95
My book : $9.95
= $1230.80 value
The program is like therapy (I know you haven't got time for that right ! Plus, my next available appt is about 4 months away), but online and you can do it whenever you want. So, its win win. You and I can make this time online, whenever it works and we still get to connect and help you to be the Mum you want to be :)